Three Secrets to Connecting with Your Audience

 

The Heart and Soul of Presentations: Audience Connection

What’s the difference between a ho hum speaker and one you talk about for days (in a good way)?

Confidence

A confident speaker knows how to connect with their audience, which makes them feel even more confident – it’s a table tennis (back and forth) kind of thing.

But how do you actually connect?

Here’s how.

In my latest video, my three tips will give your confidence a boost and help you learn the skill of audience connection.

Perhaps you’re questioning that confidence and connecting with an audience is something that just comes naturally? And it’s those ‘certain’ types of people who are off-the-cuff confident and can connect easily?

You’ll be happy to know …  it IS a skill that can be learned.

If you want to expand your speaking career, boost your confidence, and connect to an audience, get in touch with me. I’d love to show you how.

To your voice,

Janice

 
 

Don’t think about a pink elephant. 

The image of a pink elephant is now embedded in your mind and you can’t erase it…right?

When you’re talking with someone or giving a presentation your mind can play the same nasty trick when you think too hard about what to do with your hands.

The hand question is one that I’m most often asked.

And it’s a tough one to answer because how we use our hands (and arms) should come naturally. Yes, it’s easy for me to say because I come from French ancestry. We (and I) tend to let our hands fly.

For those of you who don’t come by this emotive way of speaking like I do, Here are three tips to get you started – with one caveat – don’t overthink it.

1) You can simply place your arms and hands at your side. But if you’re not feeling at ease you’ll look like a wooden stickman. By touching your thumb and middle finger together it will help you ‘fake’ looking more natural and relaxed.

Relaxed - hands to the side

2) Or you can do a lawyer’s pose with your fingertips together. Resting your hands naturally with your fingertips coming together just at or below waist height gives you an easy launching pad for your hands.

Lawyer's Pose

3) You can also hold your hands in front of you at around mid-chest with your fingers creating a church steeple. Body language experts say this shows confidence and authority.

I’ll leave you with one ‘not to do’.

Crossing your arms is an easy posture to fall into and it makes you look unapproachable.

And that’s not how you want to be seen when you’re delivering your next presentation. You want to open the connection to your audience with wide and open body language.

Give those three techniques a try and let me know how it goes.

 
 

Keep your heart open to opportunities is my motto. From an Inc.com article I wrote that went viral about the terrific example Frank Warren is as a presenter, to being spurred on by him to start a podcast, here is my first jump (both feet in) into podcast recording. I’m beyond excited to share with you, my first episode!

Frank shared some public speaking ‘secrets’ that will surprise you. They did me.

Learn from a master presenter how to stand on stage with ease and confidence. Frank shares how he battled stage anxiety and the privilege he has come to know it is to facilitate important dialogue.

Frank is a difference maker who has made a mark on mental wellness and suicide prevention.

Thank you for listening and thank you, Frank, for being the impetus for this new podcast.

Simply, thank you.

To your voice…

 
 

Three Situations When You Shouldn’t Use PowerPoint™

The Onion cracks me up. It’s sage and humorous tongue-firmly-planted-in-cheek rantings often have me choking on my morning toast.

Not a fan of PowerPoint™ slidedecks? Here’s some Onion style ammunition  to convince your friends and colleagues.

Seriously though, slidedecks have a time and a place. Sometimes its best to not use them at all.

Don’t use a slidedeck if you:

  • Haven’t practiced your presentation and are winging it (not advised). Technology will usually fail you.  You will look like an amateur.
  • Are giving a motivational presentation and can easily speak from the heart. Your audience will all ready know the information. You are there to inspire them.
  • Do you want to appear as a remarkable leader? Most presenter’s use a slidedeck. What if you didn’t?

The next time you give a presentation consider whether you really need to create a slidedeck. Will your audience miss it?  No, likely not.

The advantage that you have with not using a slidedeck is that all attention and eyes will be focussed on you.

Have you given presentations without a slidedeck? What was the reaction to your bold move?

Love to hear your comments below …

To Your Voice,

Janice

 
 

 

fist

Visualizing myself being successful and taking deep belly breaths helps me get control of my nervousness  when I speak in public…techniques I recommend to my clients. They do work if you actually do them and not just think about doing them…

Over at PsyBlog they’ve shared a new research study that proves that if an athlete clenches their left fist it stops them from choking. Looks as though the research study is not large or broad enough to be conclusive but when they had athletes clench their right fist the results weren’t as good.

I’m going to try this before my next speaking event. Give it a try — I’d love to hear back if it works for you.

To your voice,

Janice

Image: Nomadic Lass

 

 
 

By Corrie Miller

Nancy Duarte is the Queen. Really. Duarte has been a game changer when it comes to presentation content and delivery. She is the author of Slide:ology and Resonate, two influential books on the subject, and was the mind behind Al Gore’s “An Inconvenient Truth” Presentation. She has truly changed the way people think about the use of images and story when communicating their ideas.

I invite you to have a watch of her TEDx talk where she explains her story arc theory she calls the Sparkline. This presentation has everything a presentation should have:

 

1. Passion for the story

2. Authenticity in its delivery

3. It is strategically built for the audience and takes them on a journey

4. It has a great hook at the beginning (“Every one of us has the power to change the world”), and call to action at the close

5. And it has a solid key message that inspires you to become a better presenter, laced with sticky messaging throughout that resonates with the audience.

And she explains how…

you can do it too.

She is brilliantly authentic and a wonderful storyteller. I hope you enjoy and have as many take-aways as we have.

 

 

Embedding isn’t cooperating today and if the video disappears, here’s the link.

To Your Voice,

Corrie

 

 
 

 

Did you catch Ron Finley’s presentation at TED 2013? He was a powerhouse who captivated his audience and received a resounding standing O. If you haven’t watched him you should:

 

 

Ron beautifully demonstrates what separates presenters who have their audience enthralled from those who don’t.

But a little aside…understand that it didn’t come easy nor was it a quick process for Ron to get to the TED stage.

When I was introduced to Ron he had a solid draft for his 12 minute presentation. This was about two months before he was scheduled to speak. His TED presentation was significantly different that his first rendition delivered at the Vancouver audition a few months before we met.

Just like writing a book or a movie script the final draft of a presentation often is very different than the first. It is a work in progress — a process.

Ron is a creative and a designer by trade. He was no stranger to the creative process and embraced it.

Tip #1 – Be patient while building your presentation. Give yourself lots of time to be creative and let your tap of insight flow.

Ron’s presentation was memorable. The TED conference twitter stream was jumping with nuggets of wisdom. These gems were purposefully built in to have legs and stick in the minds of the audience for weeks and months after.

 

 

And then this memorable finish in Ron’s vernacular …

 

Tip #2 – Invest the time to create the nuggets … those little gems that your audience will carry away with them and remember.

 

The qualities that I most admire in Ron was that he spoke from the heart (passionate man) and never wavered from the integrity of his story. Ron asked for feedback from many colleagues and peers. And some advised him to water down his words. I advised him not to – to stick with his story and deliver with the rawness that it is. I’m glad that he stuck to his guns because the proof of a story well told, that captivated hearts and minds, showed itself in February, 2013 on the TED stage in Long Beach, California.

Tip #3 – Your story is your story. Don’t give anyone the license to make yours wallpaper paste.

Well done and well said Ron – kudos! It was a pleasure working with you. Enjoy what grows ….

 

 

To Your Voice

Janice

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
 

I’ve been working closely with Janice Tomich for a few weeks now and we get into some pretty great rip roaring conversations. As two women in the room, this one particular chat got fiery right away.

The topic has been debated at length, but please allow me to share our two cents.

Marissa Mayer, the CEO of Yahoo, has been making the news recently re: her decision to recall Yahoo’s large work-from-home-force.  It turns out that Ms. Mayer is a stickler for statistics, and that remote workers were not checking in to their VPN with enough regularity. Fair enough.

But instead of the story being about Yahoo employees not doing their jobs it becomes:

“Yahoo CEO Marissa Mayer.  A Mom we love to hate”.  That’s the headline in a recent issue of the Toronto Star.

Would you ever read the headline “A Dad we love to hate” in relation to a business decision in the daily newspaper?  Maybe I’m wrong (it’s happened once or twice you know) but I strongly doubt it.

It reinforces to me that although yes we’ve come a long way as females in the work force, we still have a long way to go. After all, there are only 21 women CEOs at Fortune 500 companies. That’s only about 4 per cent. And we’re still largely being paid less than men in the same positions. It’s hard to believe that in 2013,  it’s still a hot button issue.

Janice: “I want to see more woman in positions of power, sitting on boards, and in CEO positions. I see so many events where the men are up there doing the speaking when the audience is largely women.  The fact is that men can be very good at promoting themselves while many women are hesitant. The bottom line is that if you are up there front and center you get the jobs, you gain the profile.”

I want to help more women get the jobs.

“ When I went back to school, 25% of the class were men and I was shocked to find that that 25% ruled that classroom.  I just could not believe it.  For the most part the younger women were much quieter. That’s where I realized that there is such a need for what I do.”

I believe you can communicate assertively, authentically, AND as a woman,”

Our next Presentation Skills for Women on the Way Up workshop is 2 mornings April 18 & 19th at L’Hermitage Hotel in Vancouver.  We’d love to have you join us for these intimate and interactive sessions. To register and for more information click here.

Have a fabulous day!

-Corrie

 

 
 

Focus Emerges from Chaos

order from chaos

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Image: Chris Metcalf

Now that you have finished Part I and put a thought or idea to a sticky note (one per) that supports your key message it’s time to create order to the chaos.

What you will see emerge is running themes. Which of the themes do you find most engaging? Are they compelling to your audience? Will each theme be rich enough to be able to expand them easily.

Pick three. Yes, only three. This is where I often see presenters go wrong. They want to share all that they know and have too much information in their presentations. Their audience is overwhelmed and cannot keep up with it all.

Picking three themes creates a focussed and easy to follow presentation. No, this is not dumbing down your presentation. It is creating a clear and focussed one.

When you have chosen your three themes pick  three to five points (from within each theme) that stand out and are the most engaging. Points that you will enjoy sharing with your audience and that your audience will appreciate hearing. Use your key message as a litmus test. Do each of the points that you chose support your key message well?

Once you have the points chosen from within your themes, using new sticky notes that you will stack behind each point, expand on your ideas.

I’ll leave you with that and look for, “How to Open”, “How to Close”, and “Building in Transitions” in Part III.

If you have any questions just leave them in the comment section below.

To Your Voice ~ Janice

 
 

Matt Abrahams, who teaches at Stanford University’s Graduate School of Business and is co-founder of Bold Echo Communication Solutions, sent me his pocket size book on how to overcome the barrier of public speaking anxiety called, “Speaking Up Without Freaking Out.”

 

Speaking Up Without Freaking OutPacked with deep insight into where the fear stems, categorizing it, and then offering specific techniques for each category this book will help the reader manage public speaking anxiety.

Something new to me —  I did not know that hugging or handshaking with someone who you know to be supportive will release oxytocin. Abrahams suggests a handshake before taking the stage to take the anxiety edge off. Great advice!

Acting courageous–another recommendation–releases endorphins that actually make you feel more confident. Dr. Amy Cuddy, in her 2012 TEDx Global Talk, agrees with Abraham’s recommendation and speaks to this concept here. In my Women’s Presentation Skills workshop we watch Cuddy’s talk and the feedback from my attendees is the “Wonder Women” power pose is indeed a confidence booster.

I often recommend that those who want to be able to public speak without anxiety should repeatedly volunteer for speaking assignments (I’m often met with looks of horror). Abrahams identifies this strategy as desensitization and this is a technique that I used myself to get over my own debilitating fear.

Learning new skills often start with understanding why and “Speaking Up Without Freaking Out” does a good job of helping suffers understand where their anxiety comes from. Along with the sound techniques offered it is a terrific resource that I recommend to anyone struggling with the fear of public speaking.

To Your Voice ~ Janice

 

 
Be bold. Get heard. Inspire action.